Do it Yourself Wedding Ceremony Script?

Do you need a wedding ceremony script composed for your friend or relative to recite at your wedding? Many couples today decide to DIY it, and have a close friend or relative officiate their wedding. Some will get deputized for the day by the County Clerk, while others opt for online ordination. That is actually how I originally got into this profession. I started by officiating my niece Julia’s wedding and loved it so much I decided to do more.

Other couples choose to hire a professional experienced Wedding officiant to preside over the ceremony. Now that I have officiated almost 200 weddings, when I look back, I wish I could go back and “do over” my niece’s wedding.

If you have decided that you want someone that you love and trust to conduct your ceremony, but would appreciate some professional assistance as well, I can help.  Your close friend or relative may love you very much, but not have any idea on how to officiate a wedding. I have been both a relative and a professional, so I have a unique perspective. I will meet with you to help you to craft your wedding ceremony script for your loved one to recite. I will speak to them and offer some guidance about delivering the speech. I will also consult with them about the ins and outs of filing the important legal paperwork. The fee for this is only $85.

How does that sound?

Here are some of the pros and cons of that big decision.

Reasons to choose a Friend or Relative

They know you well and care about you very much.

They probably won’t charge you a fee.

It makes the ceremony more personal.

Reasons to choose a Professional Officiant

They are experienced and know what to expect.

(If you needed heart surgery, would you choose someone who cares about you, or someone who has done it a hundred times.)

They won’t go “off script” and say something embarrassing.

They know how to work with the other professionals on your team. (Photographers, Videographers, Coordinators and Deejays etc.)

They know how to complete the important legal paperwork and will make sure that it gets submitted properly and on time.

By hiring a professional, you insure that the intended friend or family member will be able to relax and enjoy the event, and not have to feel like they are “working”.

There is a very high rate of friend/relative officiants getting “cold feet” and backing out at the last minute. (Trust me, I get those calls all the time.)

There could be some embarrassment over having to tell your friend/relative that you don’t really like the ceremony script that they came up with. With a professional, there is no awkwardness.

Some states make it very difficult to legally have a friend/relative officiate.

Hire an experienced Professional Wedding Officiant to craft the perfect script for your "Do it Yourself" friend or family member wedding officiant.


Here is a short article in the NY times about  "How to Officiate Your First Wedding"

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